The Promised Land

Last night I was having my quiet time time with Christ doing a little Bible study and started reading a few chapters in Joshua.

[PAUSE]

**Here's the context of where we are in the Bible now: the Israelites have finally reached the point where they can enter the promised land after a 40 year journey and are about to inherit everything that God told them that He had for them**

[RESUME]

In these chapters, there were accounts of all these nations that the Israelites were going to war with because they already inhabited the lands that the Israelites were supposed to claim. In each war, no matter how big or small the enemy's army was, the Israelites defeated them because God was for them and had already given them the victory. At that moment, I heard God speak a lesson to me that I would like to share with you. 

God has given us all a promised land. Yours may be different from mines but nevertheless, it's a promised land. It's something that God has in store for you, whether it's a spouse, a brand new house, a business or even a ministry of your own. He already has it for you, it's yours. However, just like the Israelites, even though you have inherited it, you still have to go get it. It also doesn't mean that you're not going to have to go through some tests, trials and battles to get it. You'll have to fight for it. The good thing though, is that God is with you and it's already yours! You've already won! I don't know what test and trials you may be going through right now. You may feel like you're constantly being attacked, if it's not one thing it's another, it seems like it will never end. I'm here to tell you to stand up, stand tall, adjust your posture to that of a winner because you...will...win. 

I also felt God teaching me through that lesson that sometimes the battles that you face have nothing to do with you, but with others. All these nations that the Israelites were fighting did not know God or worship God prior to the Israelites. However, as the Israelites continued to defeat everyone that they came up against, knowledge of God began to spread. They now knew of Him because of how He was fighting for His people. Sometimes you're going through things not for you but because God's glory needs to be shined through you so that others can see how good He is, how He delivers,  and how He blesses. It also gives you a testimony and strengthens your faith muscles. Whatever you do, keep holding on to God, this is only a season. 

Tye Tribbet posted a tweetgram the other day that said "Your posture in this season will determine your placement in the next", which I think reigns so true. Most games are won in the last quarter. We're in the last quarter of 2013, the year's not over yet. Keep fasting, keep praying, keep pushing, keep believing, keep grinding. You're so close to the finish line....DON'T GIVE UP! Creation is waiting for YOU.

xo 

Tasha

Battle of the Exes

If you've been following my blogs a lot or even if you know me personally, you'll learn very quickly that I'm a thinker. I guess that's what causes me to be able to write so many blogs..I think a lot and I like to put my thoughts into words on paper.

So what has been on my mind lately? Friends and Exes. What if you found out your friend was dating your ex? How would you feel? Do you have a right to feel that way? Why am I even thinking about this? Who knows. Regardless I started to ask a bunch of men and women how they felt about their friends dating their exes. Was it okay? Did it matter? Is there an unwritten "code" that people are supposed to follow? Juicy!

Here's some commonalities that I found in the conversations that I had:

Women:

There is definitely a girl code. Dating a friend’s ex is not okay and not cool. That’s only leaving room for drama and anyone that would do that is not really your friend. There is some wiggle room in that though and it depends on the situation for some ladies. For some of them, if there isn’t any emotional attachment (i.e. they are over that guy completely), they would be okay with their friend dating the guy, however, the friend must ask them permission first. Also, even if there was no official relationship title (e.g. in college when people hook up or the whole friends with benefits thing), if a girl was intimate with a guy that still counts as an ex, just because girls tend to be more emotionally attached when sex is involved.

Men:

There is a guy code but may not be as strictly enforced as the girl code is. Theirs is much more situational. If the guy was just having sex with the girl then that “ex” is fair game with the friends. They don’t care. However if the guy was in a relationship with her and was known to love her, she’s off limits. If the guy has kids with her…off limits. Some guys will break this code (as I said in the beginning it’s not as strictly enforced), but guys tend to get over things quickly anyways.

After asking them this, I was curious as to whether or not this "code" had an expiration date. For example “what if you dated that ex 20 years ago?” or “what if you are now married to someone else?”. For ladies, the time stamp on the end of the relationship isn’t as black and white so it varies. However, they did say that if they were married to someone else then that code becomes null and void. Men were pretty much the same, but some men said they didn’t care, that ex is off limits forever.

My personal opinion kind of lays in the midst of all that was said above. If I am no longer emotionally attached to the ex, I'm fine with my friend dating them as long as they run it by me first. It's at least respectful to do that, I would hate to find out from somewhere else that my friend and ex were together. I think I'm at the stage in my life that I am not emotionally tied to all of my exes except for one. If my friend were to date that one exception, it would hurt me.

Then I got to playing devil's advocate and started thinking, do we really have a right to say who our friends can and can't date? I mean people aren't property. When I think about it on a deeper level, God has a specific plan for me regarding who I should and shouldn't date. I'm pretty sure He didn't tell me to date any of my exes, I went rogue and did what I wanted to do for years. So if one of my exes was the one that God intended for one of my friends, who am I to say "No. You can't date him because that would hurt me?", I wouldn't have has that soul tie to begin with had I not gone rogue. And who's fault is that? Mine. Whatever I feel as a result of my friend dating him is sort of my consequence for not obeying..right?

Needless to say, now...I don't know. I'm interested to see what other people's thoughts are if would like to share.

xo
Tasha

Given up on God or Church?

A couple weeks ago one of my sisters in Christ took a picture of a sticker she saw posted in someone's wind shield window

"Church Sucks.com

1 in 5 adults under the age of 30 say they were raised religious but are no longer affiliated with any faith"

My initial response to hearing this was that "they must feel some type of way" to want to put that on their wind shield. It made me sad but it's probably a statistic that is true. I know that I would be one of those people had I not heard God's call on my life, surrendered it all and followed Him. This further sparked a conversation about the reasons why people may leave the faith. It made me think about some of the reasons I hear people give about not wanting to be a Christian a not living the Christian life. I know that there are a lot but for the sake of time I am only listing a few.


To be honest, one of the things that bothers me the most about those who speak badly against Christianity is when they make their reasoning about other people. 

Christians are judgmental 

Be careful about generalizing. Are all Christians judgmental? No. Are some? Sure. Honestly, you have probably had moments when you were judgmental too. Take the speck out of your own eye before talking about the log in another's eye (Matthew 7:3). Am I saying that the Christians that are judgmental are right? Absolutely not! We (Christians) should know better than to judge, knowing that God saved us our ratchetness in life through GRACE. I honestly think there are two types of judgemental Christians 1)those who really do think they are holier than though (pray for them) and 2) those who actually don't mean to be judgemental but come off that way because they are either misunderstood or use the wrong words when trying to express themselves. Either way, judging another person for the purposes of putting someone down is wrong and hurtful (I blogged about a specific situation in which I was judged by another Christian here: Don't Judge Me). There are certain instances where we are correct in judging one another but that's for another blog.

Scandal/Hypocrisy in the church

 Remember that story that broke a couple years ago about Bishop Eddie Long being accused of child molestation of a number of teenage boys? Talk about scandal in the church. Here we have a Bishop preaching the Word of God every week, supposed to be walking upright with God and he's allegedly being the biggest hypocrite ever. I'm not here to debate whether or not he is guilty, at this point only he, the boys and God know the truth. I'm only using him as an example. Another reason by people don't want to join the church.

I once remember speaking to a friend about going to church. She told me that she had lost faith in the church because the Pastor, who she looked up to, ended up cheating on his wife with one of the church members and it ended up getting out to the whole congregation. To see someone that she admired so much do something so sinful disappointed her and made her think that a pursuit with God was not worth it after all. She and a host of other members ended up leaving the church. Another reason why people give up on the church.

I ended up asking my friend to examine the foundation that she built, because what I was hearing was that she putting her trust in that pastor and not in God. So when he (the pastor) fell, she fell. If her trust was in God, yes she would have been hurt and disappointed in what happened but she would have never stopped following God. 

Discussion

There is not one book, chapter or verse in the Bible that indicates that being a Christian has anything to do with following other people or other Christians. The goal of being a Christian is to follow, Christ and Christ alone. He is the only perfect one. He is the only one that will never let you down and will never sin. I understand and deeply sympathize with those that have been hurt in any way shape or form. Whether it's a judgmental person, gossipers, the body of Christ verbally attacking or ostracizing you, a scandal involving a pastor, being taken advantage of physically or emotionally etc. I get it, you're hurt and I'm sorry, so sorry.

I've made up my mind however, not let what others do dictate my relationship with Christ. I can't! It's the difference between heaven and hell. That's too important. On judgement day when God asks me why I didn't live the life He commanded me to live or obey Him, how do I look saying, "I didn't do what you told me to do because my pastor cheated on his wife and I was upset/hurt/felt betrayed?". Is that my God or is God my God? God didn't tell me to follow the pastor, He told me to follow Him!

Here are a few more bonus reasons:

Tithing

Some people have an issue with tithing. I say, do your research. Read your Bible, seek God's face and He will tell you what to do. Do I think you should give something? Yes. Am I going to tell you how much or what that something should be? No. That's between you and God. I'll leave that to Him to hash out with you. At the end of the day you are blessed, not only with finances (rich or poor) but with so many other things like family, friends and health. I personally think it's selfish to think that God should continually blessed you abundantly, overflowing without you never giving anything back to Him. 

Christian life asks for too much

God sent his ONLY Son to live the life of a human, come down from His throne to be whipped for hours until His skin tore, mocked, spit on, disrespected and CRUCIFIED. Then He blesses you with all of the things of the world (take the time to try and write down all of your blessings big and small). Your are given the keys to heaven and the only thing He asks for in return is for your heart and to live for Him. Do you really that that's too much? I don't think so. I think I got off easy.

  

Christian life is too hard

He never said it would be easy, but eternity with Him is worth it. This walk isn't for the weak hearted. I'm still learning to develop thick skin. His yolk is easy to bear and His burden is light (Matthew 11:30). Give it your hardships to Him

Too many rules 

 Before Jesus came the faith was legalistic, lots of rules to follow. Just read Exodus-Deuteronomy and you'll be overwhelmed with all the laws. Thank God for Christ though who came to establish a relationship. When people tell me there are too many rules, it becomes clear to me that they don't understand what my walk with Christ is. He pursues a relationship with you. Are there certain things I should and should not do? Sure. I'm representing Christ and I want to give an accurate representation of who He is, but I don't look at it as a "rule" per se. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone before? Would you talk down to that person? Would you go out and cheat on them? Would you never call them? Would you never see them? Of course not! Are these technically "rules" that you should follow in a relationship. Yes, but you don't feel bound by them. Why? You WANT to do these things for the other person because you LOVE them. That's what a relationship with Christ is like. I don't do certain things because I love Him. As a result, I don't feel bound.  

To wrap things up, a lot of the reasons I hear are due to a negative experience that a person has had with the body of Christ. We are in no way excused and need to get it together. But at the same time that can't be your excuse. The relationship is between you and Christ alone. Following Christ is no easy task so make sure your foundation is like that of the man who built his house upon the rock. The rain came, storms came and the house was still there....strong. (Matthew 7:24-27)

xo Tasha 
 

I miss Jamaica

The other day I was going through some old notes that I had written way back in the day and I found this...poem (I guess?)...that I wrote back when I was 18 years old. Just wanted to share it:

Last night as I lay
So frustrated
Aggravated
And lonely
I did something that I haven't done since my last trip to Jamaica
Remember HOME
As I closed my eyes
I can remember sitting out on the front porch at night
Everything was always so dark and still
As a child that scared me
I remember seeing fire flies and laughing at them
Hearing the crickets make sounds
Sometimes I would lay on the grass and look up at the stars
Making wishes
The days of my innocence when I still believed that wishes came true
I remember taking deep breaths every once in a while
The air always smelled so fresh
So clean
I remember the neighbor's dogs
I used to be so scared of them
He had 10
And there was a white one who we used to call the "killer dog"
He literally always killed other dogs
I remember climbing the trees with my friends
Reaching for tangerines, guavas, pears, cherries and apples
I remember going into grape vines and always getting stuck in the thorns
The Sundays I used to go to church
We'd come home
Have a big family dinner
Went for a walk on the road
And then we'd all sit on the front porch and eat mangoes to our hearts desire
I always used to pick the bad ones and my mother would share hers with me
I remember elementary school
How I loved it so...
I remember the bell that used to ring when our lunch hour began and ended
I remember going to our supermarket on Saturdays

Helping mom sell things
When I was good she would let me go into the market and taste fruits that they were selling
I remember my childhood friend Simone
How we were inseparable
Then suddenly a car horn outside brought me back to reality
I had been in this memory trance for over an hour
I felt my face and realized I had been crying....

Home sweet home <3

Jamaica, W.I

Spiritual Attacks: Are You Ready to Fight?

Earlier this month I had my monthly meeting with my Pinky Promise sisters to have a discussion and Bible study on prayer. It was such a good time in Christ as we shared from the heart and prayed and interceded for one another. The devil was maaaaad, lol. Immediately after the meeting, one of the cars which had 3 of the sisters in it came so close to being in a car accident while another car (which I was in with 3 other sisters) DID get into a car accident. We were sitting at a red light for at least 30 seconds and here comes a vehicle from behind, hitting us in the back. From what I can remember there was no screeching of brakes so I'm led to believe that he just never stopped. I had never in my life been involved in a car accident. It was such a scary feeling. Here we were one minute, laughing and talking with one another and then in a split second being thrown forward from the crash.

We immediately knew it was the attack of the enemy. It was no coincidence that one car going in a different direction almost got in an accident and the other car that I was in was involved in an accident. It was also eerie that the man who hit us was smiling. There are a few scattered thoughts that I had while thinking of this:

1. As Christians we need to recognize that we are under a spiritual attack. While we were in the world not following Christ, the devil wasn't worried about little 'ole us because we are doing what he wanted us to do. Now that you follow Christ, you pray for people, you're breaking strongholds, you're witnessing to people and writing about God's love, you're becoming kind of a nuisance to him. You're making him mad. So he'll do whatever he needs to do to get you out of the equation. Whether it's distracting you with drama from friends or family, getting attacked by people that don't know God or even that FINE unsaved man with the most scrumptious muscles that make you want to say "JESUS", or just paling KILLING you. One way or the other, he wants to get rid of you. 

Just because we are unwilling to acknowledge that we are in a spiritual battle and the devil is after us full force, does not change the fact that we are in a battle. We need to suit up and get ready to fight. We don't fight through the flesh but through the spirit. We need to to stay prayed up, Worded up and fellowshipped up at all time. Jesus already won the war for us on the cross, so we know that we will in the end, but we still need to fight the battles. 

2 days after the accident the founder of the Pinky Promise organization, Heather Lindsey, blogged about a dream that she had regarding spiritual attacks. She had no idea what had happened to us in MA (she's based out of ATL) yet was writing about the same thing that was happening here. There is no doubt in my mind that God is trying to speak here. Read her blog called "My Dream Last Night: A visitation by the enemy himself" here: www.heatherllindsey.blogspot.com

2. It's so important to take our walk with God seriously every moment in the day. We always say how life can be gone in the split of a second and for the first time in my life I experienced that split second. As I said before, one second I was laughing and the next second my body was being plunged forward (we all had our seat belts on by the way). It could have been, we were laughing one second and dead the next. What is your relationship with Christ? Do you know Him as your personal Lord and Savior? Do you walk with Him daily? Are you a born again Christian? If you do have a relationship with Christ, are you dying to yourself daily? Are you doing a self check? Mind check? Attitude check? Bed check? (If you are single you should not be in a bed with anyone who is not your husband. Period. If you are married, same thing.) Do people see Christ when they see you or do they see that world? Can people tell by your actions that you are different or do you look like everyone else? It's time to do some self inspection and for us to repent. I had to do that myself that night.

3. Despite the accident and all the pain I’ve been in a lot of people have commented on how high my spirit is and how happy I’ve been. I see no reason to feel low. I mean, yes I can’t go to work, yes I’m in pain, yes I’m prevented from doing a lot of things that I’m able to do on a day to day basis and I could be miserable. But why? I’m alive. I have great friends and family checking in on me, I have a job that gives me paid sick days (hallelujah!). Why be sad when I can look at all the positives in my life? I would hope that as I go through trials and tribulations in life that I will be known as the one who is still in good spirits

If you are a woman (single or married) and are interested in joining the Pinky Promise Group in MA we would love to have you. We have over 30 women of God on this journey with us and it's been such a blessing in my life. Send an email to MAPinkyPromise@gmail.com for more information and to join.  If you are a man looking to fellowship with other men of God that are serious about walking on purpose with God, Heather's husband Cornelius Lindsey runs a male version of Pinky Promise called The Oath. I don't have much information on this (because I'm not a man, lol) but you can google The Oath or Cornelius and you'll be able to find information that way.

My first night out with a few of my Pinky Promise sisters a few weeks after the car accident. 

xo

Tasha 

Skating in Christ

Original Post: October 2013

The day before my birthday this year I decided to go ice skating with my sisters who, at that time had been learning how to ice skate all summer. I have been ice skating once in my lifetime, during college and it was an epic fail. I have never had an official lesson and it’s absolutely nothing like roller skating. 

While my sisters glided freely in the middle of the ice rink, I was sitting on the outside with my skates on completely afraid to get on the ice and fall. I eventually gathered the courage to get on the ice and held on so tightly to the wall as if my life depended on it. My form of “skating” was using my hands on the wall to push my body forward on the ice. I did this for at least 20 rounds around the ice (this was a pretty big rink) but the more I did this, the more comfortable I became with the ice and I knew that at some point I was going to have a to take a risk, go out of my new comfort zone and elevate to a new level of skill. 

At this point you are probably wondering why I’m telling you this, as if you care about my skating experience. Just rock with me for a second, I promise I’m taking you somewhere.

Eventually I got the courage to take my hands of the wall and start pushing my feet, one at a time, in front of each other. I looked so silly at first but soon in came naturally. As I became more comfortable, I took longer strides. My sister, who was a more experienced skater was right beside me the entire time telling me what to do. When I felt brave enough to go faster I realized I didn’t know how to stop if I needed to. She had to teach me how to stop. I became good at it. By day 2 on the rink I was gliding around as if I had been skating for a while. With my sister beside me instructing me and my willingness to step  out and try a new step I succeeded and became better with my skating.

The first few times I fell (while I was still on the wall) my sister was helping me to get back on my feet and holding me up. By the 2nd day when I was confident and moving around quickly, I fell so hard in the middle of the ice, far away from the wall. My sister came running (or I guess skating) to see if I was okay. I was fine, I just need help getting up. Instead of her running to help me up, she told me how to get up on my own and stood there until I was able to do it successfully. 

That night I lay in my bed and thought about how my experience with ice skating is so similar to being a Christian and walking in the faith (aaaaye I told you I was taking you somewhere :D). In the beginning, we were probably all like me, standing outside the “rink” wondering should I follow God? Can I do that? It looks challenging. I don’t even know what to do. Eventually we heed to His calling and step into the rink of being saved for the first time. We don’t know what to do, we don’t know how to pray. We just hold onto God and people who are older than us in the faith, like a baby, and let them guide us on where to go and what to do. If we stumble, they are there to pick us up and help us back on our feet.

However, just like I went around that rink on the wall at least 20 times, there is a time when you have to start growing up. There is a time when you have to stop holding onto the “wall” (people) and start living the faith for yourself. You are going to have to stop relying on people to pray for you and pray for yourself. You are going to have to stop depending on the pastor to feed you the Word once a week and start feeding yourself the Word the other 6 days a week. You are going to have to stop waiting for people to tell you what God is saying and seek Him for yourself. It’s time to let go of that wall. Step out of your comfort zone and just start “pushing” one foot in front of the other. 

Eventually your “pushing” won’t seem weird anymore and you’ll start to glide freely in your walk with Christ. He will elevate you and you will gain confidence in your knowledge and relationship with Him. This doesn’t mean that you won’t ever fall though. We all do at some point, we’re human. There comes a point where you have to learn to get up without people babying you. I’m sure my sister wanted to pull me up when I fell on the ice, but if she kept on pulling me up, I would never learn how to get up on my own. Though your brothers and sisters in Christ are there to pull you up, sometimes they have to let you pull yourself up so that you can learn how to do it on your own. You can learn how to pray yourself through that trial and through that storm.

I’m definitely not a professional skater but I can now hold my own when I go to a skating rink. I know the basics and can teach them to someone else who might not know anything at all. Now that you are skating freely in Christ, go back and help someone who is standing outside on the “rink” bring them in, mentor them and teach them how to “skate” in Christ.

P.S: If you are struggling with a fall that you have had or are having in Christ please check out the blog I posted a few weeks ago called Rescued

xo

Tasha

Who's in Your Circle?

Original Post: October 2013

This past Sunday, my cousin (who lives in Jamaica) went missing. No one knew where she physically was and no one could reach her over the phone for most of the day. My family finally decided to pull me in on what was going on, in an attempt for me to try and contact her. Though I was not told from the beginning to avoid me freaking out over here (in the U.S.) it became concerning enough for me to try and contact her. Simply because we’re close and she would never ignore a call from me, mainly because I’m calling internationally. The moment I called her the first time with no answer was the moment everyone started to freak out. 2 times, 3 times 4 times, 10 times, calling back to back with no response from her.

Immediately I decided to reach out to a group of sisters in Christ that I am connected with (I would roughly say at least 50 ladies). Some of them I know personally, some I am close with and some I have never met in person before. However this community of women of God started praying heaven down throughout the night with me. In the midst of chaos, I felt comfort knowing that these women had my back and that there were people praying for my family and I and the safe return of my cousin. I received prayer via phone, texts along with Bible verses to stand on.

My cousin finally contacted me and is safe, what a relief. God is so good. Even if she wasn’t safe and something did happen to her, it would have been hard to get through, God would still be good none the less. I say this to point out that God’s goodness isn’t dependent on Him doing what I want Him to do when I want Him to do it, or even things turning out in my favor.

I’m sharing this to point out the importance of having people of God in your life. As a Christian, we weren’t meant to walk this path alone. Even Jesus needed help in carrying His cross. When things get rough and you can’t deal with it on your own, that’s the time you turn to the body of Christ to pick up when you can’t. It’s hard to explain but I feel like, in that moment, when the reality of something bad happening to my cousin became a possibility, I became weak and couldn’t “stand” on my own. With all of these ladies praying I felt like a spiritual circle or wall was being formed around me as they interceded to God on my behalf. It’s kind of an amazing feeling. If you are new to the faith or even a veteran and you’re not connected to the body of Christ, get plugged in. Get involved, form relationships. That’s how God intended for it to be.

Thank God for placing the idea of Pinky Promise in Heather Lindsey’s heart and thanks God for my Pinky Promise sisters!

xo

Tasha