Stop Asking Me Why I'm Single...

If you are a single person, you will immediately feel where I am coming from. If you are a single Christian, you may feel me a little bit more. I am a 27 year old Christian woman and, yes, I am single.

My last "official" relationship ended when I was 18 years old. After that, a period of 5 years went by where I entered into what can be best defined as "situations". If you're familiar with the college scene, you know all too well what I am talking about... a relationship without the title of a relationship so people can sleep around as they choose. I never wanted to be be a part of this, I wanted to be true to who I was and I thought I was worth more than that. Actually, I was. But I allowed the world to deceive me into believing that maybe I was not. If I was (worth it), I would have gotten it (a relationship)...right?

I got saved and delivered physically, emotionally and mentally from that life 4 years ago. Yet in my walk, I am still single and have never been approached by a single man of God. I have friends who are single and friends who are getting engaged, married and having babies. This is the age to start settling down according to the world. So many time people come up to me and ask me " Why are you single? You're so pretty. You should be married by now". Then they sit there patiently waiting as if I am supposed to come up with a logical answer to this question. Because something must be wrong. Then, if you don't have an answer or none at all, they then start asking if you're doing the things you should be doing to find a mate. Are you going out? "You hang out with too many girls, men find that intimidating". Are you dressing to be found? Wear this, wear that. More heels. Wear make-up more often. You really should wear more jewelry. Along with many other unwarranted advice concerning what I'm doing wrong.

What if you were wrong? What if I am, in actuality, not doing anything wrong but in fact...right? What if I am actually in the will of God? What if He simply has me hidden because His best for me is not yet ready for me? When did being single become a cusre? When did single all of a sudden mean that I am less valuable than an individual who was married?

There are too many single who are pining away and lonely because they are not content with themselves and who they are. I know that some of you mean well, but stop it. Your words and questioning doesn't help the situation. You cause us to wonder IF there was something wrong with us because you wouldn't ask if you didn't think that something was wrong. You mess with the contentment we could have or are struggling to have.

Stop asking me why I'm single.
I am not sitting on a corner crying myself to sleep. I am perfectly fine.

Stop asking me why I'm single.
I am busy chasing God and being busy doing the work that He has called me to do. I am busy ministering through blogs and social media, serving in church and running a women's group. I am busy doing and being exactly where God wants me to be.

Stop asking my why I'm single.
In most cases, it's none of my business, and it's none of yours either.

Stop asking me why I'm single. Single is not a curse and I'm no less valuable because of it. It's not a disease. No need to look down on me and feel sorry for me. I surely am not.


Thank you for your concern but no need to ask. I will have what God desires for me in due time. Until then, I will live my life to the fullest. If you're that concerned, pray for me. And if I need advice or suggestions...I'll ask you.


Sincerely
Tasha